Think of the work of putting together your birth preferences as more of a thought exercise of learning about what is most important to you and your partner. Of course a healthy mother and a healthy baby are first on everyone’s priorities. But what else?
Yep—I’ve never met a pregnant person who preferred a three day induction over an efficient eight hour, “let’s do this” sort of birth. But most people seem to think there’s little they can do to help ensure they have a smooth labor.